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February 14, 2011
"Friends with benefits" relationships where two friends are sexually involved without true romance mean different things depending on one's gender, according to research by Justin Lehmiller, assistant professor of psychology. The study will appear in a forthcoming issue of the Journal of Sex Research.
Men and women who engage in sexual behavior with their friends view and treat those relationships quite differently – in ways that could have public health implications regarding safe sex, according to a new Colorado State University study.
The study, in a forthcoming issue of the Journal of Sex Research, is the first of its kind to look at gender differences involving these relationships and the behavior of adults of all ages including parents and even grandparents, said Justin Lehmiller, assistant professor of psychology. Other studies have looked solely at college-age adults.
Some gender differences discovered were largely consistent with traditional societal gender role expectations, including the belief that casual sex is a more socially permissible behavior for men than it is for women, Lehmiller said. However, men and women seemed more similar than different in some important ways.
Other results were more surprising, Lehmiller said:
“Those findings do not completely fit with people’s stereotypical beliefs about how men and women approach sexual relationships,” Lehmiller said. “Women may have a greater interest in casual sex than previously assumed, and contrary to popular belief, men do not necessarily want to be emotionally detached from their sexual partners.
“Interestingly, we found that the friendship aspect of these relationships was highly valued by both men and women, suggesting that they are not just about the sex,” he said.
This study could also have major implications for understanding whether people are engaging in safe sex in casual relationships.
“This is something we need to pay more attention to. Are people engaged in safe sex practices with their casual sex partners?” he said. “People may assume that because this person is their friend, they can trust that he or she will not have any diseases and, therefore, may not feel as compelled to practice safe sex.”
Lehmiller conducted an online survey of 411 people ages 18 to 65 who were engaged in “friends with benefits” relationships. A majority of the sample were in heterosexual relationships, but the survey included some people in homosexual or bisexual relationships.
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